First off, I'm not really interested in men, which has actually surprised and disappointed people in the past.
Secondly (and the point of writing so much on the subject), I'm polyamorous. That is to say that I do not insist that my partners not be involved with other people, and, provided it is not a problem for my partners, being involved with someone doesn't keep me from wanting to be involved with other people.
(as of January 1st, 2000) I'm engaged to Vicka Corey Ph.D., planning to get married on October 1st, 2000. I'm not sufficiently involved with anyone else to say, although there are people I'm interested in.
Because I'm terrible at updating things once I've written them.
(again, as of January 1st, 2000) Vicka would not mind if I got involved with other people, provided I continue to spend enough time with her and continue to show up when I say I will.
Therefore, the main criteria for me to get involved with someone are that they be okay with me continuing to be involved with Vicka and continuing to spend a lot of time with her, and not try to compete for my attention, and that I actually be interested in the person romantically.
One detail of the situation is that I would not have problems with a new relationship which is not very extensive or committed, since it will clearly not comprise all of my romantic involvement.
Yes, both more recent and less recent than me. But that's her story to tell.
Yes. We know of quite a few examples of this working for long periods of time (longer than the average length of marriages in America, and still going), both people we know and people we've heard of.
Certainly. I'd like to believe that people are monogamous when married because their spouses would be hurt if they were not, not because of traditions. In our case, the only reason we could have for being monogamous would be social pressure, since we each know the other does not mind other relationships.
I proposed to marry Vicka because I not only intend to stay with her for the rest of my life, but want to make a commitment to this, and want to convey this information to society at large. This seems to me to be the point of marriage.